Sunday, November 15, 2009

To Anwar Jusuf

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Dear Anwar,

I’m a stranger to you but it’s safe to say that I hear quite enough about you. For a start, I heard that you are the kind of physician who takes his time with his patients. You know very well that when they come to you with their health issue, they take with them also various stories, of which they need to make sense, and of which you choose to take the the care to help them make sense. I don’t know how rare that quality is among the likes of your profession, but your son seems to think that it isn’t a popular virtue in the truest sense.

I also heard that you find many things interesting. That it is your habit to be cautious toward any initial information; to take the time to seek for trustworthy explanation; and to reserve some time of delay before making your decisions, especially critical ones (both critical to you, and critical to those who pose the issue to you). And you did so because you think that anything interesting is worth probing. Since you find almost anything interesting, yours must have been a busy mind.

From what I heard, you are an exceptional father. Your son told me that you make sure that all your three children learn that their father trust them very highly. You let them explore their world themselves. You let them make their own decisions, and oversee them from afar for proportional protection. ‘No’ is the word the least likely to come from you, and ‘think first’ are ones you implicitly express the most. You seldom tell them directly because you trust that they don’t need reminding. Let me tell you that although your son value that trust, at certain times it scares him.

So I heard you’re also fun. Your son said that in public gathering you always introduce him as your brother, not son. He enjoys the peer-to-peer conversation he gets from those occasions (Pssst. He also hates it because you make it impossible for him to ask for some money, just in case he wants to bail out).

Let me tell you about your son (I know a little bit about him). I think your curious nature has grown in him, too. He is not as skillful as you are when it comes to being a people person. In fact, that is the most difficult quality of yours for him copy. But please be satisfied that he’s trying, impossibly hard. It is nowhere easy to be a person as thoughtful as you are.

I noticed your birthday just passed by. I don’t say happy birthday often to people because when it goes, it goes without a genuine taste. But the way your son told me the stories of you, I think I would very much mean it when I say ‘Happy Birthday”, especially the ‘happy’ part. And say ‘hi’ to your wife for me. I heard she’s great, too.

Sincerely yours,
A Friend

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